Last weekend, I turned 49. Firstly, how on earth did that happen?
One minute I’m young and hip, the next I’m nearly eligible for cheaper car insurance, over 50s holidays (European river cruise or in an RV!) and living in a 50+ retirement village….not to mention turning down the music in the car so I can see better!
But it sure beats the alternative! I just love life 💕 so much I don’t like knowing it will all end one day…after a few more jolly decent decades, hopefully.
Gosh, you did not open this Sunday email to be faced with my morbid thoughts 😂 Apologies!
Although birthdays do give us a chance to reflect on where we’ve been and what’s in store for the future.
At home with my birthday flowers.
Someone wise once said, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.”
And as creatives, we are in the PERFECT position to create, design and build our lives exactly how we want. Why? Because thinking outside-the-box is a natural zone for us; we often happily buck the status quo; we often connect with ourselves and the world around us in non-conformist ways.
That’s not to say we need to be mad as hatters, living up to stereotypes and cliches!
I look pretty conventional and in many ways live very conventionally, but I am never afraid to follow my own path and openly go against the grain when I need. I don’t give 2 hoots what people think about me (well, most of the time haha!)
If you want to live YOUR ideal lifestyle, with your creative business supporting you, here are a few pointers:
⭐ Write down your Be, Do, Have and Feel goals.
Start with the Feel goal; how do you want to feel in your life? Then choose your other goals & actions to foster those feelings. There’s no point saying “I want to be a millionaire” or “I want to run my own video production agency” when the activities and work needed to achieve these don’t light you up.
⭐ What does success & happiness look like for you?
Not me, not the internet guru, not your parents (yes, even as grown-ass adults, we can still have parent-pleasing tendencies!) Being clear about the big and small things that denote success & happiness to you is crucial.
⭐ Bake plenty of time into your work, your timelines, your professional promises.
You want to have expansiveness & space in your life, not working 24/7. Do not promise 24 hour turn-arounds: it will turn you into a stressed out, performing monkey. Do clearly communicate to your customers and clients when they can expect delivery of work: always add a couple of extra days into your timelines to allow for life to happen.
⭐ If you have a spouse or significant other, bring them into the conversation about ideal lifestyle.
So often I see couples working independently on their own careers and goals, yet true success and satisfaction come when you share the dream and share the load.
This is what my husband and I have done for the past 12 years…we have 4 location-independent income streams between us which really takes the pressure off. We have space, peace & time to do exactly as we please. It’s taken 12 years to get to this point, with some bumps in the road, but SO worth it now!
⭐ Find role models and seek communities who support your goals & ideals.
Don’t waste your breath trying to convince any friends, family and peers who simply don’t get it. They never will. Their minds have been conditioned to think in a certain way, and your creative business and ideal lifestyle goals might seem outlandish and irresponsible to them. Ignore them. Who cares what they think?
Don’t forget that often love is expressed as fear. And the fear of the unknown, the unfamiliar, the unconventional, can bring out negativity and a lack of support in those closest to us.
You can find your role models & community who ‘get it’ at The Creative Business Hub. I can be your biggest support and cheerleader. I will believe in you, as will the other members! Check us out here
🙌 So, during my next spin around the sun, I will continue to design my ideal lifestyle and build my creative businesses to support it.
What can you do today to start plotting, planning, creating and living YOUR ideal lifestyle with your creative business?